In case you missed it because you live under a rock or something, there’s been a big stir lately about allegedly lesbian bloggers being “outed” (I use the term bitterly tongue-in-cheek) as actually being straight, middle-aged men.
I’m not linking anything here. First of all, I had nothing to do with either of these bloggers. Second, I don’t know how I feel about directing traffic to the sites on which they perpetuated their frauds.
I didn’t really follow either blog, but I’m not blind. I’d come across them before; I just didn’t keep reading.
The whole thing jeebs me out a little. Okay, not a little. The whole thing jeebs me the fuck right out of my skin.
I’ll grant that I may take it a little worse than someone else possibly would. I have spent the last year of my life recovering from the personal and professional damage of a Bernie Madoff-esque con woman who insinuated herself into every aspect of my life for her own personal gain. So I may be a bit touchier than most about people pretending to be something they aren’t.
But come the fuck on already.
I get that it’s the interwebz. I get that people can say whatever they want to say, and send it winging out into the ether. If you want to create a blog that’s a personal account and also happens to be entirely fictional (like I’ve seen before on a much smaller scale), then have at it.
But a non-psycho would have put a disclaimer into the title bar and disclosed the fictional nature of the content of the site.
These guys – both of them that have been in the news this week – are some sick puppies. They’ve created an entire online existence that is as far away from their personal realities as possible. Gender, sexual preference, even geographic locations were completely constructed from thin air. How many different personality disorders can you qualify for before you’re a certifiable medical miracle, anyway?
My heart breaks a little for those of you who invested in these asshats. I know how you feel – believe me.
And I’m sorry, beyond words, that you got taken for a ride. I’m angry, beyond words, that there’s some teenage kid out there now who feels like their entire life has been invalidated because one of these two cocksuckers was something they’d found online about being a dyke that resonated with them.
I hope there is a way to prosecute them. And I really, truly hope that, someday, they wake up to the realization of exactly what was wrong about what they did.
If they really are human, the weight of that alone will bring them to their knees.